Quo vadis, Europa? – Quo imus? – Where are we going in Europe?

As a strong supporters and defender of the European Union I am feeling more and more embarrassed with this monster with 28 dragon heads.
Christians have remained loyal supporters and so have I, not so much because of what Europe actually is, but rather because of what Europe could (have) become: a conglomerate of states loosely sharing more or less the same ideals, an example to the world of how century old conflict was put to rest and a union ready to stand up for its rights and for those of others.
Nowadays, however, with the crisis in Ukraine at hand, the ideals that individual states and EU-leaders put forward seem rather bleak and shameful. Last week European Commission President José Manuel Barosso explained that time had come to think about sanctions against Ukraine, but soon after it became clear that only tiny Lithuania is in favour of a harsher approach to things.
In the end a self-serving pragmatism reigns and the message the EU is conveying is rather pitiful: the sooner there is peace in Ukraine the better, irrespective of who will be in charge. That would be the best for everyone. For everyone?
The truth behind this sad reality is that the 28 EU-member states are fully incapable or uninterested (for whatever reason: fear, political or economic gain) to take on Russia, which is very keen to let Ukrainian President Viktor Yanukovych live another day. The “Ostpolitik” of the EU is self-serving, hardly idealistic and lacks large quantities of courage. Europe seems more about getting and less about giving. For example, the EU is not prepared to give Ukraine at least an outlook on EU-membership in say 20 years’ time.
Meanwhile, at a conference on Thursday 23 January 2014, the President of the European Council Herman Van Rompuy complained about too little awareness in the member states of the raison d’être of the EU – putting an and to war in Europe. It gave me a feeling of despair! After all, the EU decided some while ago not to have a common remembrance of World War 1, because consensus is lacking about causes and consequences of this tragic part of our history. Can it be that even verbal conflict instils fear in our EU-leaders?
Hence my question: Quo imus? Where are we going? Is the EU of the new century nothing more than a display of introverted and self-centred pomp and circumstance?
Frans Hoppenbrouwers.